SESSION 10 - HOW TO HEAL

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SESSION 10 - HOW TO HEAL

GROUP VIDEO

Today we discussed how to heal through ecosystems!

 

SESSION 10 - GROUP VIDEO

Watch 10-20 minutes of a GROUP video teaching, that correlates with the full Workshop semester topics.                                 


GROUP CONVERSATION GUIDE

 

WHY DO

YOU DO

WHAT YOU DO?

 

RECOVERY

ECOSYSTEMS

An ECOSYSTEM

is a group of

interconnected and interactive

RELATIONSHIPS,

ENVIRONMENTS

and BEHAVIORS,

creating an organized

METHOD of OUTCOMES.

 

4 GREATEST PREDICTORS OF RECOVERY

  1. God
  2. Recovery partners
  3. Specialized training
  4. Giving back

 

There is a difference between

TRYING and TRAINING!

 

SPIRITUAL EXERCISES

  1. The goal is intimacy, not performance!
  2. The goal is to enter the emotional brain through these exercises, not just learn academics!
  • Community
  • Vulnerability
  • Celebration
  • Submission
  • Confession
  • Non-Judging
  • Encouraging
  • Reconciliation
  • Church Ownership
  • Evangelism Invites
  • Love Stranger
  • Service
  • Sacrifice
  • Solitude
  • Silence
  • Secrecy
  • Thankfulness
  • Worship
  • Dancing/Clapping
  • Raise Hands/Shouts
  • Prayer
  • Centering (Mindlessness)
  • Spiritual Languages
  • Bible Reading/Study
  • Meditation (Mindful)
  • Journaling
  • Declarations
  • Courage/Faith Risks
  • Fasting
  • Tithing/Offerings
  • Frugality
  • Sexual Purity

GROUP DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

Take a few moments to discuss your answers to these questions with the Group.

 

ICE BREAKER  

If you could instantly possess three skills you don’t presently have, what would they be?

 

QUESTIONS

  1. Are you comfortable being “emotional” with the Lord? What is your greatest challenge/fear about being emotionally connected to Christ?
  2. What are your favorite spiritual exercises (see notes above)? What are your most challenging spiritual exercises?
  3. Name one part of an ecosystem that you are consistently engaged with that is compelling you to health? (Relationships, environments, exercise behaviors; God, recovery partners, specialized training or giving back)
  4. Which part of your ecosystem is causing you the greatest challenges towards health right now (relationships, environments, exercise behaviors; God, recovery partners, specialized training or giving back)? Why?

 

RECEIVE HOLY COMMUNION TOGETHER

1 Corinthians 11:23-26 NKJV For I received from the Lord that which I also delivered to you: that the Lord Jesus on the [same] night in which He was betrayed took bread; 24 and when He had given thanks, He broke [it] and said, "Take, eat; this is My body which is broken for you; do this in remembrance of Me." 25 In the same manner [He] also [took] the cup after supper, saying, "This cup is the new covenant in My blood. This do, as often as you drink [it], in remembrance of Me." 26 For as often as you eat this bread and drink this cup, you proclaim the Lord's death till He comes.


SESSION 10 - WRAP UP VIDEO #2

This is a 5-10 minute video for MOVING FORWARD, GOING DEEPER, use of worksheets and periodic church-wide announcements.


MOVE FORWARD

Receive the challenge to “MOVE FORWARD” by applying what was learned this week.

SUGGESTIONS:

  1. GROUPS EXPERIENCE SURVEY (CLICK HERE)
  2. EASTER - Easter prayer card / Easter invite cards / Easter prayers (SEE LAST WEEK'S SESSION MOVING FORWARD)
  3. THE NEXT GROUP SEMESTER - Launches April 30th
  4. GROUPS LAUNCH - Group Rally April 23 & 30th and new attenders
  5. INTERIM SESSIONS - Concerts, meals, community service, etc.
  6. CONTINUE YEAR CYCLE - Encouragement to continue the year cycle of this Group
  7. CELEBRATE YOUR GROUP HOSTS - Celebrate your Group Hosts for being AWESOME!!

GOING DEEPER

Encouragement to engage the FULL WORKSHOP SEMESTER experience. While this is not required, nor is the Group discussions connected to the full workshop, it is an option for everyone.


PRAYER / DISMISS GROUP

Prayer time with the Group.

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SESSION 9 - THE WOUNDED HEART

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SESSION 9 - THE WOUNDED HEART

GROUP VIDEO

Today we discussed the importance of transparency!

 

SESSION 9 - GROUP VIDEO

Watch 10-20 minutes of a GROUP video teaching, that correlates with the full Workshop semester topics.


GROUP CONVERSATION GUIDE

 

WHY DO

YOU DO

WHAT YOU DO?

 

Unconscious, Unprocessed

Traumatic Memories

 

There are generally about 10-20 unprocessed memories

that are responsible for most of the pain and suffering of our lives.

 

HEART & BRAIN CONNECTION

HEART

(Spirit & Soul)

SOUL

(Mind, Will & Emotions)

MIND

(Living Consciousness of the Brain)

BRAIN

(Physical Organ)

 

JEREMIAH 17:9 AMP The HEART is DECEITFUL ABOVE ALL THINGS, and it is EXCEEDINGLY PERVERSE and CORRUPT and SEVERELY, MORTALLY SICK! Who can know it [perceive, understand, be acquainted with his own HEART and MIND]?

 

WHAT CORRUPTED THE HEART

My HEART was impacted by SIN.

Sin generated WOUNDS.

Wounds generated a story of MEANING.

 

The Sin Nature Wounded Me

My Choices Wounded Me

Other’s Choices Wounded Me

 

SIN’S ABUSE

Emotional/Verbal

Physical

Sexual

SIN’S WOUNDS / GRIEFS

Boundary Failures

Sorrows

Neglect

Betrayal

Change/Loss

Catastrophe

Addiction

Codependence

Anything Not of Nurture

 

Wounds imbedded fear.

Fear is the antithesis of

love, nurture and care.

 

1 JOHN 4:18 NKJV There is no FEAR in LOVE; but perfect LOVE casts out FEAR, because FEAR involves TORMENT. But he who FEARS has not been made perfect in LOVE.

 

The ANSWER to FEAR is INTIMACY!


GROUP DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

Take a few moments to discuss your answers to these questions with the Group.

 

ICE BREAKER  

What is your favorite city? Why?

 

QUESTIONS

You may want to use your Scope Timeline Worksheet to help you more quickly identify memories to answer the discussion questions.

  1. Since fear is at the root of all compulsive behavior, think of a life-event you can remember where you were AFRAID; or have a painful, emotional memory. (For the sake of time, tell the quick version of the story.)
  2. When you consider the above life-event, share what inner thoughts, narratives and beliefs became common for you.
  3. NAME the recurring emotions you feel when these streaming thoughts consume you. (You can Google search “Feelings Wheel” to assist you in locating the closest emotion to yours.)
  4. Have you tried, UNSUCCESSFULLY, to control, manage or escape from these inner thoughts, narratives and beliefs? If so, how? What strategies, conscious and unconscious, have you used?
  5. How have these thoughts, emotions and beliefs affected your RELATIONSHIPS?
  6. How have these thoughts, emotions and beliefs affected your BEHAVIORS?

SESSION 9 - WRAP UP VIDEO #2

This is a 5-10 minute video for MOVING FORWARD, GOING DEEPER, use of worksheets and periodic church-wide announcements.


MOVE FORWARD

Receive the challenge to “MOVE FORWARD” by applying what was learned this week.

SUGGESTIONS:

  1. EASTER PRAYER CARD - If you haven't already download the Easter Prayer Card below, then identify your prayer targets (those you will be praying for). 
  2. EASTER INVITE CARDS - Grab your Easter Invite Cards during the week at the church office, then give them to your prayer targets. Also, be anticipating engaging random invite-drops as you encounter strangers, acquaintances, and people you hadn't thought about. Ask them, "WOULD YOU come to my church this Easter?"
  3. EASTER PRAYERS - Pray each day over your prayer targets using the prayers written specifically for this application.
  4. GROUP SUPPORT - As a Group, how can you maximize encouragement to one another to make this Easter a fruitful one in your ministry with Christ? Discuss this before you go tonight.

GOING DEEPER

Encouragement to engage the FULL WORKSHOP SEMESTER experience. While this is not required, nor is the Group discussions connected to the full workshop, it is an option for everyone.


PRAYER / DISMISS GROUP

Prayer time with the Group.

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SESSION 8 - CONDITIONED HEART

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SESSION 8 - CONDITIONED HEART

GROUP VIDEO

Today we discussed the importance of transparency!

SESSION 8 - GROUP VIDEO

Watch 10-20 minutes of a GROUP video teaching, that correlates with the full Workshop semester topics.


GROUP CONVERSATION GUIDE

 

WHY DO

YOU DO

WHAT YOU DO? 

SOMETHING HAPPENED

AT THE HEART LEVEL

THAT ALTERED GOD’S DESIGN

 

IN THIS SESSION

WE WANT TO HAVE

A GREATER UNDERSTANDING

OF WHAT THE HEART IS.

 

1.  IT ALL BEGINS IN THE HEART

  • PROVERBS 4:23 NKJV Keep your HEART, with all diligence, for out of it spring the ISSUES OF LIFE.

 

EVERYTHING WE DO

COMES FROM THE HEART.

 

THE HEART

MUST BE GUARDED…

FROM SOMETHING.

 

2.  WE BELIEVE WITH THE HEART (CORE BELIEFS)

  • ROMANS 10:9-10 NKJV …that if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and BELIEVE in your HEART that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. 10 For with the HEART one BELIEVES unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.

 

THE HEART HAS BELIEFS,

EMOTIONAL BELIEFS.

 

WHAT YOU EMOTIONALLY BELIEVE

WILL CONSUME THOUGHTS AND EMOTIONS,

DRIVING YOU TO BEHAVIORS.

 

WE ARE TO BELIEVE TRUTH WITH OUR EMOTIONS,

NOT JUST WITH A RATIONAL ASSENT.

 

3A.  WE THINK WITH THE HEART (CONSUMING THOUGHTS)

  • PROVERBS 23:7 NKJV For as he THINKS in his HEART, so [is] he.
  • HEBREWS 4:12 NKJV For the word of God [is] …a discerner of the THOUGHTS and INTENTS of the HEART.

 

THOUGHTS THAT ARE MERELY RATIONAL

WILL NEVER CHANGE YOUR LIFE,

EVEN IF THOSE THOUGHTS ARE ALIGNED WITH TRUTH.

 

3B.  WE EMOTE FROM THE HEART (CONSUMING EMOTIONS)

  • PSALM 37:4 NKJV Delight yourself also in the LORD, And He shall give you the DESIRES of your HEART.
  • JAMES 1:14-15 NKJV But each one is TEMPTED when he is drawn away by his own DESIRES and enticed. 15 Then, when DESIRE has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death.

 

SIN IS ANYTHING WE DO

THAT WILL DESTROY US!

 

WHEN WE ACT OUTSIDE

OF OUR GOD-DESIGN

WE ACT FROM A DISORDER!

 

SIN’S ULTIMATE END

 IS TO ERODE OUR CAPACITY

FOR INTIMACY!

 

A HARD HEART IS A HEART

THAT IS EMOTIONALLY REPRESSED!

 

4.  WE BEHAVE FROM THE HEART (COMPULSIVE BEHAVIOR)

  • MARK 7:21-23 NKJV [JESUS SAID] "For from within, out of the HEART of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders, 22 thefts, covetousness, wickedness, deceit, lewdness, an evil eye, blasphemy, pride, foolishness. 23 All these evil things come from within and DEFILE a man."

 

COMPULSIVE BEHAVIOR

REFERS TO BOTH

HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY BEHAVIORS.

 

GOD DESIGNED US

TO LIVE COMPELLED LIVES

TOWARDS HIS PURPOSES.

 

WHAT IS THE HEART?

  • The HEART is the SPIRIT and SOUL of a person.
  • The SPIRIT is perfect, once restored through Salvation.
  • The SOUL is made up of the mind, will and emotions. [Sometimes in the Bible the SOUL references the entire make up of a person; spirit, soul and body.]

 

THE LIMBIC SYSTEM OF THE BRAIN

CORRELATES WITH

THE BIBLICAL IDEA OF THE HEART.

 

THE BRAIN IS THE PHYSICAL GLOVE

THAT YOUR MIND (WHICH IS ETERNAL) DWELLS IN.

 

RENEWING THE MIND

NECESSITATES THE

RENEWAL OF THE EMOTIONS.

 NEUROBIOLOGICALLY,

90+% OF ALL HUMAN BEHAVIOR

FIRES OFF FROM THE LIMBIC SYSTEM OF THE BRAIN.

 

RENEWING THE MIND

REQUIRES WE RENEW

THE LIMBIC SYSTEM OF THE BRAIN.

 

THE PREFRONTAL CORTEX OF BRAIN

  • The executive part of the brain that regulates long-term planning, decision making, and rational interpretations.

 

LIMBIC SYSTEM OF THE BRAIN

  • THALAMUS is a large structure deep in the center of the brain that relays info to and from the outside world and your cerebral cortex
  • AMYGDALA is an almond-shaped structure in the temporal lobes involved in emotions and fear responses
  • HIPPOCAMPUS is a seahorse-shaped structure that helps memories move into long-term storage
  • HYPOTHALAMUS is the size of a pearl and controls brain chemicals that make you hungry, sexual, sleepy, exhilarated, angry, or unhappy
  • OLFACTORY CORTEX is our sense of smell, which connects to emotional and memory centers

 

WHAT ARE WE TO GUARD THE HEART FROM? WHAT HAPPENED TO THE HEART?

  • HEBREWS 12:14-15 NKJV Pursue PEACE with all [people], …looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any ROOT of BITTERNESS SPRINGING UP cause TROUBLE, and by this many become DEFILED;
    • MARK 7:21-23 NKJV [JESUS SAID] "For from within, out of the HEART of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders, 22 thefts, covetousness, wickedness, deceit, lewdness, an evil eye, blasphemy, pride, foolishness. 23 All these evil things come from within and DEFILE a man."
    • PEACE – Wholeness, nothing broken, nothing missing, at one again – antithesis of broken, content, complete, prospering 
    • ROOT – a shoot or offspring
    • BITTERNESS – a harsh, disagreeable experience causing emotional pain or distress, compelling the wounds to shame, self-deprecation and outward smoldering resentment.
    • SPRINGING - To beget, bring forth, produce, be born, to spring up, to grow, to shoot forth, spring up
    • UP - The trouble/bitterness is at the surface ready to be released outward
    • TROUBLE – Excite, annoy, disturb
    • DEFILE – Dye with another color; to stain, pollute or contaminate.

 

WE GUARD OUR HEART

FROM BITTER EXPERIENCES.

 

WE MUST REPROCESS

OUR BITTER MEMORIES

TO LIVE AS WE WERE DESIGNED

IN THE IMAGE OF GOD.

 

WHERE DO OUR BITTER GRIEVANCES COME FROM?

  • ADAM’S SIN – Sin we inherited wounded me.
  • MY SIN – Sin I committed wounded me.
  • OTHER’S SIN – Sin that was perpetrated on me wounded me.

GROUP DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

Take a few moments to discuss your answers to these questions with the Group.

 

ICE BREAKER  

If you were to describe yourself as a flavor, what would your flavor be? Why?

 

MY MEMOIR STORIES

IMPORTANT:  If the Group would like to continue telling one Memoir Story per week until they are completed, that might allow for a more congruent transition. Please be sensitive to the Science of Freedom content and discussion. It is important that our people are exposed to the possibilities in their potential that this content will provide. Please take no more than 20-25 minutes for the Memoir to leave time for the rest of the content below. 

 

QUESTIONS

  1. Name a time when your heart was hardened towards someone or something.
  2. Name a time when your heart was softened, made tender, towards someone or something.
  3. What are the emotional characteristics of a hardened heart? What are the emotional characteristics of a soft heart?
  4. Since your heart (and identity) is related to how you interpret the world around you (i.e. God, ourselves, others and environments), how have emotions informed your interpretations?
  5. How have your emotions influenced your interpretations of God, Self, and Others? Have your emotions skewed your interpretations, or even hardened you, to God, Self, and Others? If so, how?

SESSION 8 - WRAP UP VIDEO #2

This is a 5-10 minute video for MOVING FORWARD, GOING DEEPER, use of worksheets and periodic church-wide announcements.

MOVE FORWARD

Receive the challenge to “MOVE FORWARD” by applying what was learned this week.

SUGGESTIONS:

1.    MEMOIR STORY - If you haven't told your MEMOIR STORY, continue preparing to tell your story to the rest of the Group over the next several weeks.

2.    PRAY FOR GROUP MEMBER - Pray for at least one person in the Group. Try to identify someone who hasn't been prayed for, or given an encouraging Scripture. Don't worry about feeling inadequate as a prayer. No one feels like they are professional prayers, at least not when they look into eyes of the Almighty God. Praying the Scriptures over people is the best way to learn how to pray effectively. Simply find a Scripture, put the person's name in the text, and pray those words out loud. Then ask the Lord to help you think of things to say to Him about them that would help their lives. 

3.    ASK FOR A SCRIPTURE WORD - Ask God to give you a Scripture to give them to encourage, comfort and edify them. You can Google search "God's Promises" and find a plethora of appropriate texts. Look for one that seems to give you a spark of energy as you think about the person you have been praying for.

4.    DELIVER THE WORD TO THEM - Then send them an email, text or phone call to encourage them. This is how the Holy Spirit works in our lives. As you practice these movements you will expand your own capacity with God, all while giving people much needed hope and strength. 

 

GOING DEEPER

Encouragement to engage the FULL WORKSHOP SEMESTER experience. While this is not required, nor is the Group discussions connected to the full workshop, it is an option for everyone.

 

PRAYER / DISMISS GROUP

Prayer time with the Group.

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SESSION 7 - CORE BELIEFS

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SESSION 7 - CORE BELIEFS

GROUP VIDEO

Today we discussed the importance of transparency!

SESSION 7 - GROUP VIDEO

Watch 10-20 minutes of a GROUP video teaching, that correlates with the full Workshop semester topics.


GROUP CONVERSATION GUIDE

 

WHY DO

YOU DO

WHAT YOU DO?

WHAT ARE CORE BELIEFS?

Core Beliefs are the

underlying beliefs

that spawn our automatic thoughts.

 

EXAMPLES OF CORE BELIEFS

  • Defective - Beliefs about about being inherently flawed, incompetent, or inferior.
  • Unloveable - Beliefs about being unlovable, undeserving of love.
  • Abandoned - Beliefs about losing anyone to whom you form an emotional attachment.
  • Helpless/Powerless - Beliefs about the lack control and cannot handle anything effectively or independently.
  • Entitled - Belief related to specialness, that causes you to make demands or engage in behaviors regardless of the effect on others.
  • Hyper-Responsibility - Belief of the requirement for excessive forfeit of your own needs in the service of others. Individuals often feel guilty, and compensate by putting the needs of others ahead of their own. 

 

CORE BELIEFS REPRESENT DEEPER THINGS

  • Emotional Beliefs
  • Emotional Memories
  • Arousal/Ardent Desires

CORE BELIEFS FROM THE KNOWLEDGE DISCIPLINES

  • Brian's LIMBIC Beliefs
  • Psychology's IDENTITY Beliefs
  • Theology's HEART Beliefs

A RENEWED MIND

requires the renewing

OF OUR EMOTIONS!


GROUP DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

Take a few moments to discuss your answers to these questions with the Group.

 

ICE BREAKER  

If you could go to college (again), what would you study?

 

MY MEMOIR STORIES

IMPORTANT:  If the Group would like to continue telling one Memoir Story per week until they are completed, that might allow for a more congruent transition. Please be sensitive to the Science of Freedom content and discussion. It is important that our people are exposed to the possibilities in their potential that this content will provide. Please take no more than 20-25 minutes for the Memoir to leave time for the rest of the content below. 

 

QUESTIONS

We all have limiting core/emotional beliefs. Finish the below statements to begins seeing down into your own core beliefs.

1.      I am AFRAID that ___________________ .  [Why? If that is true (the WHY), what does that mean to you?]

2.    I feel STUPID when I ___________________ .  [Why? If that is true (the WHY), what does that mean to you?]

3.    I feel ANGRY when ___________________ .  [Why? If that is true (the WHY), what does that mean to you?]

4.    I feel REJECTED when ___________________ .  [Why? If that is true (the WHY), what does that mean to you?]

5.    I feel DEPRESSED when ___________________ .  [Why? If that is true (the WHY), what does that mean to you?]

6.    I feel HAPPY when ___________________ .  [Why? If that is true (the WHY), what does that mean to you?]

7.    If people new the real me they wouldn’t like me because ___________________ . [Why? If that is true (the WHY), what does that mean to you?]


SESSION 7 - WRAP UP VIDEO #2

This is a 5-10 minute video for MOVING FORWARD, GOING DEEPER, use of worksheets and periodic church-wide announcements.


MOVE FORWARD

Receive the challenge to “MOVE FORWARD” by applying what was learned this week.

SUGGESTIONS:

1.    MEMOIR STORY - If you haven't told your MEMOIR STORY, continue preparing to tell your story to the rest of the Group over the next several weeks.

2.    PRAY FOR GROUP MEMBER - Pray for at least one person in the Group. Try to identify someone who hasn't been prayed for, or given an encouraging Scripture. Don't worry about feeling inadequate as a prayer. No one feels like they are professional prayers, at least not when they look into eyes of the Almighty God. Praying the Scriptures over people is the best way to learn how to pray effectively. Simply find a Scripture, put the person's name in the text, and pray those words out loud. Then ask the Lord to help you think of things to say to Him about them that would help their lives. 

3.    ASK FOR A SCRIPTURE WORD - Ask God to give you a Scripture to give them to encourage, comfort and edify them. You can Google search "God's Promises" and find a plethora of appropriate texts. Look for one that seems to give you a spark of energy as you think about the person you have been praying for.

4.    DELIVER THE WORD TO THEM - Then send them an email, text or phone call to encourage them. This is how the Holy Spirit works in our lives. As you practice these movements you will expand your own capacity with God, all while giving people much needed hope and strength. 

 

GOING DEEPER

Encouragement to engage the FULL WORKSHOP SEMESTER experience. While this is not required, nor is the Group discussions connected to the full workshop, it is an option for everyone.

 

PRAYER / DISMISS GROUP

Prayer time with the Group.

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SESSION 6 - CONSUMING THOUGHTS AND EMOTIONS

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SESSION 6 - CONSUMING THOUGHTS AND EMOTIONS

GROUP VIDEO

Today we discussed the importance of transparency!

SESSION 6 - GROUP VIDEO

Watch 10-20 minutes of a GROUP video teaching, that correlates with the full Workshop semester topics.


GROUP CONVERSATION GUIDE

 

WHY DO

YOU DO

WHAT YOU DO?

WOULD YOU LIKE TO TRANSFORM A BEHAVIOR?

  • Spend Money (compulsively)
  • Waste productive hours
  • Escape into pornography
  • Drink alcohol or smoke pot
  • Overeat
  • Talk too much
  • Complain all the time
  • Gossip
  • Overreact to impersonal injustices

 

IT ALL BEGINS IN THE HEART

HEART

  • PROVERBS 4:23 NIV Above all else, guard your HEART, for everything you do flows from it.
  • MATTHEW 15:19 NKJV [Jesus said] For out of the HEART proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies.

BELIEFS

  • ROMANS 10:8-10 NKJV But what does it say? "The word is near you, in your mouth and in your HEART" (that is, the word of faith which we preach): 9 that if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and BELIEVE in your HEART that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. 10 For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.

THOUGHTS

  • PROVERBS 23:7 NKJV For as a person THINKS in his HEART, so [are] they.
  • HEBREWS 4:12 NKJV For the word of God [is] living and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the division of soul and spirit, and of joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the THOUGHTS and intents of the HEART.

BEHAVIOR

  • JOHN 13:2 NKJV And supper being ended, the devil having already put it into the HEART of Judas Iscariot, Simon's [son], to betray Him (Jesus)…

 

THOUGHTS DRIVE EMOTIONS, EMOTIONS DRIVE BEHAVIORS

  • A thought is a picture of reality; it’s not in direct contact with reality.
  • Thoughts can become exaggerated and distorted, making a person’s sense of reality exaggerated and distorted.

 

WHAT IS AN EMOTION?

E – MOTION = E means outward. MOTION means movement. Emotion means outward movement.

EMOTION DEFINITION = An intense mental state that arises subjectively and spontaneously rather than through conscious effort and is often accompanied by physiological changes.

  • JAMES 1:14-15 NKJV But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. 15 Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death.
  • GALATIANS 5:17 NKJV For the FLESH LUSTS against the Spirit, AND THE SPIRIT AGAINST the flesh;
  • ROMANS 12:2 NKJV And do not be conformed to this world, but be TRANSFORMED by the RENEWING OF YOUR MIND, that you may prove what [is] that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.

A RENEWED MIND HAS TO CORRELATE TO A RENEWED EMOTION

 

SITUATION TO THOUGHTS, EMOTIONS & BEHAVIOR GRAPHIC (TRIANGLE)


GROUP DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

Take a few moments to discuss your answers to these questions with the Group.

 

ICE BREAKER  

My favorite way to waste time is _____________ .

 

MY MEMOIR STORIES

IMPORTANT:  If the Group would like to continue telling one Memoir Story per week until they are completed, that might allow for a more congruent transition. Please be sensitive to the Science of Freedom content and discussion. It is important that our people are exposed to the possibilities in their potential that this content will provide. Please take no more than 20-25 minutes for the Memoir to leave time for the rest of the content below. 

 

QUESTIONS

  1. How in touch with your emotions/feelings do you think you are? (1 - Repressed, 2 - Mildly Repressed, 3 - Sometimes Aware, 4 - Mostly Aware, 5 - Highly Aware)
  2. Name one thing that makes you HAPPY. [Hold onto the one thing in your memory as we will cycle back to it in #7-#8]
  3. Name one thing that makes you SAD. [Hold onto the one thing in your memory as we will cycle back to it in #7-#8]
  4. Name one thing that makes you ANGRY. [Hold onto the one thing in your memory as we will cycle back to it in #7-#8]
  5. Name one thing that makes you EXCITED. [Hold onto the one thing in your memory as we will cycle back to it in #7-#8]
  6. Name one thing that causes me STRESS. [Hold onto the one thing in your memory as we will cycle back to it in #7-#8]
  7. Every emotion we feel has a correlated inner narrative. Pick one of the emotions/feelings above. What is the script your inner narrative tells you about that thing that makes you feel “____” (emotion)?
  8. Again, pick another of the emotions/feelings above. What is the script your inner narrative tells you about that thing that makes you feel “____” (emotion)?

SESSION 6 - WRAP UP VIDEO #2

This is a 5-10 minute video for MOVING FORWARD, GOING DEEPER, use of worksheets and periodic church-wide announcements.


MOVE FORWARD

Receive the challenge to “MOVE FORWARD” by applying what was learned this week.

SUGGESTIONS:

  1. MEMOIR STORY - If you haven't told your MEMOIR STORY, continue preparing to tell your story to the rest of the Group over the next several weeks.
  2. PRAY FOR GROUP MEMBER - Pray for at least one person in the Group. Try to identify someone who hasn't been prayed for, or given an encouraging Scripture. Don't worry about feeling inadequate as a prayer. No one feels like they are professional prayers, at least not when they look into eyes of the Almighty God. Praying the Scriptures over people is the best way to learn how to pray effectively. Simply find a Scripture, put the person's name in the text, and pray those words out loud. Then ask the Lord to help you think of things to say to Him about them that would help their lives. 
  3. ASK FOR A SCRIPTURE WORD - Ask God to give you a Scripture to give them to encourage, comfort and edify them. You can Google search "God's Promises" and find a plethora of appropriate texts. Look for one that seems to give you a spark of energy as you think about the person you have been praying for.
  4. DELIVER THE WORD TO THEM - Then send them an email, text or phone call to encourage them. This is how the Holy Spirit works in our lives. As you practice these movements you will expand your own capacity with God, all while giving people much needed hope and strength. 

 

GOING DEEPER

Encouragement to engage the FULL WORKSHOP SEMESTER experience. While this is not required, nor is the Group discussions connected to the full workshop, it is an option for everyone.

 

PRAYER / DISMISS GROUP

Prayer time with the Group.

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SESSION 5 - THE MODEL OF BEHAVIOR

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SESSION 5 - THE MODEL OF BEHAVIOR

GROUP VIDEO

Today we discussed the importance of transparency!

SESSION 5 - GROUP VIDEO

Watch 10-20 minutes of a GROUP video teaching, that correlates with the full Workshop semester topics.


GROUP CONVERSATION GUIDE

 

WHY DO

YOU DO

WHAT YOU DO?

 

There is something inside of you and me that winds us up, springs us up and messes us up! 

Maybe you think it is a PERSON:

  • Those kids – “They are just driving me crazy – I get mad and then I get sad – I don’t like me when my kids make me that way.”
  • My husband – “He makes me feel so alone. He is shut down. He just sits like a toad in front of the TV – I feel so SAD and disappointed.”
  • My boss – “She makes me feel so stupid. I can’t do anything right. I am a loser when I am at work and just hope I don’t do something that gets me fired. I go home every day thinking I’m a failure.”
  • My wife – “She makes me so mad. I come home and I’m happy. As soon as I walk in the door she is a tidal wave of attitude and questions and interrogations. I blow up. Man, I wish she didn’t make me this way.”
  • My parents – “I want to be a good kid. I want to be of a surrendered pliable heart. I want to be intimately connected. But then they just yell at me and yell at me until I have had it. They don’t listen to me. So I quit. So I isolate. I get emotional distant and disconnecting. I don’t like it but it’s their fault.”

Maybe you think it is BEHAVIOR:

  • Spending money
  • Wasting productive hours 
  • Escaping into sexual fantasy, pornography, etc. 
  • Drinking alcohol, or smoking pot 
  • Overeating
  • Talking too much
  • Complaining all the time
  • Gossiping
  • Overreacting to impersonal injustices

 

IF YOU COULD

CHANGE ONE THING

ABOUT YOU,

WHAT WOULD YOU CHANGE?

 

Remember, there are many things you are incapable of changing:

  • Your family
  • Your boss (the way he/she is)
  • Your friends (the way they are)
  • Your history
  • Your body type (although you can manage your body)
  • What other people say about you
  • Other people’s desire for, or interests in, you 
  • The successes or failures of others
  • How much money you have today
  • The abuse and wounds that have happened 
  • Imperfections (You will never become perfect in this life)
  • Where you are today (though you can change where you will be tomorrow) 
  • God

 

IF YOU DESIRE TO CHANGE,

WHY HAVEN'T YOU

CHANGED ALREADY?

 

Most people answer that with this response:

  • “I just need to TRY harder.”
  • “I’m probably NEVER going to be able to.”
  • “I guess I don’t WANT it enough. If I desired enough, I would change.”

 

IT IS IMPOSSIBLE

TO SOLVE A PROBLEM

WHEN YOU DON'T KNOW

WHAT THE PROBLEM IS

TO BEGIN WITH!

 

ROMANS 7:15, 22-25 NKJV For what I am DOING, I do not UNDERSTAND. For what I will (want) to DO, that I do not PRACTICE; but what I hate, that I DO... I see another law in my MEMBERS, WARRING against the law of my MIND, and bringing me into captivity to the law of sin which is in my MEMBERS. 24 O wretched man that I am! Who will deliver me from this body of death? 25 I thank God--through Jesus Christ our Lord!

 

THERE IS A

WAR GOING ON

IN THE MIND!

 

JOHN 8:30-32 NKJV As Jesus spoke these words, many believed in Him. 31 Then Jesus said to those Jews who believed Him, "If you abide in My word, you are My disciples indeed. 32 And you shall know the truth, and the TRUTH shall make you FREE."

 

THE TRUTH YOU BELIEVE

MAKES YOU FREE.

 

THE LIES YOU BELIEVE

KEEP YOU ENSLAVED.

 

QUESTION:  

What LIES are you presently BELIEVING?

God*  Yourself * Others

 

QUESTION:

WHY are you believing LIES?

Rationally * Emotionally

 

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GROUP DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

Take a few moments to discuss your answers to these questions with the Group.

 

ICE BREAKER  

Where would you live if you could move anywhere in the world, and why?

 

MY MEMOIR STORIES

Start with the Hosts (husband, wife), then if you have an Apprentice go next. Then open it up to the Group. 

  • IMPORTANT:  If the Group would like to continue telling one Memoir Story per week until they are completed, that might allow for a more congruent transition. Please be sensitive to the Science of Freedom content and discussion. It is important that our people are exposed to the possibilities in their potential that this content will provide. Please take no more than 20-25 minutes for the Memoir to leave time for the rest of the content below. 

 

QUESTIONS

  1. Is there anything that surprised you about Pastor's perspective of why we do what we do? When you hear him say that behavior isn't about disciplining a "choice point," but about regulating the inner world, what does that mean to you?
  2. How often have you though or said, "I need to get ________ (behavior) under control"? Why is this so important to us?
  3. When you hear about a system of behavior, transforming your life, desires and contentment, what excites you the most? What scares you the most? Are you skeptical?
  4. What would a functional, healthy inner world look like if you had one? What would an dysfunctional, unhealthy inner world look like if you had one?
  5. How do you think God views your struggle with desired behaviors? Does He project disappointment, sadness, grief; or does He project confidence, empathy, and hope?
  6. Have you ever thought about where your personality comes from? What about your experiences of desire, hope and contentment, where do they come from? Is it possible that you have relegated personality to hard wiring, when in fact many of these traits are neuroadaptive (the brain can adapt and evolve)? What would it mean to you to experience a transformation in areas of your inner world?

SESSION 5 - WRAP UP VIDEO #2

This is a 5-10 minute video for MOVING FORWARD, GOING DEEPER, use of worksheets and periodic church-wide announcements.


MOVE FORWARD

Receive the challenge to “MOVE FORWARD” by applying what was learned this week.

SUGGESTIONS:

  1. MEMOIR STORY - If you haven't told your MEMOIR STORY, continue preparing to tell your story to the rest of the Group over the next several weeks.
  2. PRAY FOR GROUP MEMBER - Pray for at least one person in the Group. Try to identify someone who hasn't been prayed for, or given an encouraging Scripture. Don't worry about feeling inadequate as a prayer. No one feels like they are professional prayers, at least not when they look into eyes of the Almighty God. Praying the Scriptures over people is the best way to learn how to pray effectively. Simply find a Scripture, put the person's name in the text, and pray those words out loud. Then ask the Lord to help you think of things to say to Him about them that would help their lives. 
  3. ASK FOR A SCRIPTURE WORD - Ask God to give you a Scripture to give them to encourage, comfort and edify them. You can Google search "God's Promises" and find a plethora of appropriate texts. Look for one that seems to give you a spark of energy as you think about the person you have been praying for.
  4. DELIVER THE WORD TO THEM - Then send them an email, text or phone call to encourage them. This is how the Holy Spirit works in our lives. As you practice these movements you will expand your own capacity with God, all while giving people much needed hope and strength. 

GOING DEEPER 

Encouragement to engage the FULL WORKSHOP SEMESTER experience. While this is not required, nor is the Group discussions connected to the full workshop, it is an option for everyone.

PRAYER / DISMISS GROUP

Prayer time with the Group.

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SESSION 4 - THE PRINCIPLE OF TRANSPARENCY

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SESSION 4 - THE PRINCIPLE OF TRANSPARENCY

GROUP VIDEO

Today we discussed the importance of transparency!

SESSION 4 - GROUP VIDEO

Watch 10-20 minutes of a GROUP video teaching, that correlates with the full Workshop semester topics.


GROUP CONVERSATION GUIDE

 

WHAT IS TRANSPARENCY?

What is transparency? Why do we fear being it?

  • Transparency is a principle of relating, where you reveal your “inner self” and how you TRULY experience life.
  • Transparency is a trust process, requiring an intentional decrease of opacity within a relationship or tribe of relationships, until finally vulnerabilities and fears are fully exposed, as well as your desires and dreams.
  • Transparency is a privileged gift you give to others, yet you become the greatest beneficiary of such risk. This quality of openness implies a desire for safety and trust in relationships, even in the context of tribal disagreements over opinions, philosophies, AND even politics.
  • Transparency means you can see through something, disclosing all the hidden parts. When a person is transparent they have moved beyond image management, to present the real Self.

 

HYPER-TRANSPARENCY

Sometimes people confuse true transparency with hyper-transparency, or what could also be called “pseudo transparency.” Hyper-transparency is the illusion of transparency, a bold proclamation of transparency, while lacking the humility, trust and invitation into intimacy that true transparency describes.

 

PRIVACY VERSUS SECRECY

It is important for us to acknowledge that there is a difference between “secrecy” and “privacy.” Privacy is good and a healthy approach to relationships. Secrecy is not so healthy, as it galvanizes us from real relationships.

  • PRIVACY - Privacy is vetting the safety of situations and differentiating which relationships are esteemed to move forward with. Privacy is necessary for healthy networks of relationships.
  • SECRECY - Secrecy is instinctive strategy rooted in fear of being known. Secrecy is our compulsive desire that shrouds our shame, repressing painful memories, in ardent hope that it will never be exposed. Unfortunately, the decision to shroud and repress can only produce a void of real intimacy. Though not everybody should be privileged to know the real you, somebody should. For nobody to have access to the real you reflects your own brokenness, not the people that God has brought into your life.

 

GIVING THE DEVIL "PRAISE"????

Sometimes Christians will even hide behind Christian jargon, in hopes that their past can be shrouded. A statement like, “I don’t want to tell my story because I don’t want to give the Devil praise,” is just smoke screen for secrecy. It is the Devil’s deception to keep you in an intimacy insufficiency…and clearly driven by his fear.

If the Devil’s pain and influence leaves you hopeless, then it is giving him praise. But that assumes you have a faulty understanding of God’s goodness and miracle power to turn the worst pains around for His glory.

 

WHY DO WE FEAR TRANSPARENCY?

  1. We fear our painful story will confirm a shameful identity 
  2. We fear being perceived as weak, in contrast to our tribe members, and then suffering powerlessness
  3. We fear losing control of life, love and relationships; though control is an illusion and not real.
  4. We fear other people’s disappointment in us will disrupt our own happiness
  5. We fear revisiting the pain of the past, and what it will do to dysregulate us today
  6. We fear letting other people down
  7. We fear the quality that attracted a person to you will no longer be a value, making you worthless to the tribe.
  8. We fear rejection from our tribe

 

TRANSPARENCY IS A PROCESS OF TRUST

Transparency is a healthy process anchored in trust. Feelings of hesitance, and even trepidation, around transparency is normal.

  • Real transparency is a progression.
  • Real transparency is a conversation; it may require some time to work through your own trust and anxiety issues.
  • Real transparency is a series of choices. It is more than one choice. It requires sober and intentional decisions to move towards greater intimacy by exposing more and more of you, until the tribe, or someone in the tribe, knows it all.

THIS IS THE LAST WEEK OF MEMOIR STORIES FOR THIS SEMESTER

Before I turn it over to your GROUP HOST, I want to share how the next several weeks will go in this first semester of your GROUP. We have designed the Group experience to be a year-long experience. Each semester is 10 weeks in length. There are 4 semesters in the Group year.

  1. The first semester correlates with The Science of Freedom full workshop.
  2. The second semester correlates with Redemption full workshop.
  3. The third semester correlates with The Authority of the Believer full workshop.
  4. And the final semester correlates with The Holy Spirit full workshop.
  5. Also, there may be a few weeks BETWEEN semesters with for cookouts, movies, community service projects and more.

In view of that, we have designed the Memoir Stories to be shared throughout the year. So tonight will be the last night of this semester we will focus on telling your stories. We will pick them back up in the first few weeks of the next semester, like we have done during the beginning of this semester.

So, not everyone will have time to share their Memoir Story in this first Semester, and there is no pressure to make that happen. Spend the rest of this evening telling more stories. Then next week come ready to talk about Freedom, and why we do what we do. We will have 6 weeks together talking through human behavior from a theological, psychological and neurobiological level.


TONIGHTS DISCUSSION

Your Host will lead the Group in an icebreaker for everyone to share in. Then you will hear the Memoir Stories of those in your Group. Be prepared to share, using MY MEMOIR: PREPARING TO TELL MY STORY (Scope Timeline) worksheet to help you think through your story. You can download the SCOPE TIMELINE WORKSHEET at the linkThere is a longer version of the worksheet, that gives an extra step to dig deeper into your story, which can be downloaded at LONG VERSION WORKSHEET (RECOMMENDED)You can also watch the WRAP UP video from last week that explains how to use the worksheet. Each person's Memoir should be 10-15 minutes long.

IMPORTANT:  We would like to have 4 people share their stories, per night, for the next 3 nights. That only leaves time for 12 total stories. If you have more in your Group than 12, plan to add a 5th person's story per night, for the next 3 weeks. Also, help everyone stay in the 10-15 minute range for their stories, so everyone can participate with ease.


GROUP DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

Take a few moments to discuss your answers to these questions with the Group.

 

ICE BREAKER  

What's the weirdest thing you've ever eaten?

 

MY MEMOIR STORIES

Start with the Hosts (husband, wife), then if you have an Apprentice go next. Then open it up to the Group. 

  • It isn't necessary that a person follow the SCOPE TIMELINE WORKSHEET, but it will make it easier for people to follow a structure. There is a longer version of the worksheet, that gives an extra step to dig deeper into your story, which can be downloaded at LONG VERSION WORKSHEET (RECOMMENDED)
  • The goal is to have each individual person share for 10-15 minutes of their life story (Memoir). As the Host try to stay tuned to each person's story and ask things like, "What was that like?" or "How did that make you feel?" or "What was the emotional power rating you would put on that event?"
  • IMPORTANT:  We would like to have 4 people share their stories, per night, for the next 3 nights. That only leaves time for 12 total stories. If you have more in your Group than 12, plan to add a 5th person's story per night, for the next 3 weeks. Also, help everyone stay in the 10-15 minute range for their stories, so everyone can participate with ease.

 

POST-MEMOIR STORIES

If the Group completes the MEMOIR STORIES, having heard from everyone signed up from the Group, or there is a minimal attendance in tonight's Group, feel free to use the following questions for conversation (of course the memoir stories have top priority). Use last week's questions below first (if you DIDN'T use them last week), then use this week's.

Previous Week's

  1. Who was your best friend in childhood? What was it about that person that caused you to connect with him or her?
  2. In what ways do people present exaggerated images of themselves to the world? What harm can these exaggerations cause?
  3. Have you ever judged someone based on first impressions only to change your mind when you heard more of that person's story? What is it about hearing his or her story that changes your mind
  4. How did you feel about telling your story in this Group?
  5. If you struggled to be open and transparent about telling your story, what were your fears of how it might change your relationship with the people in this Group?
  6. What are some things that would make this Group safe enough for you to be open and transparent?

This Week's

  1. Who are the top 3 people that have influenced you the most in life?
  2. What are your greatest successes? What obstacles did you overcome to acheive those successes?
  3. What are your greatest failures? What did you learn from those failures?
  4. In what ways has God influenced you in your relationships, successes and failures?

SESSION 4 - WRAP UP VIDEO #2

This is a 5-10 minute video for MOVING FORWARD, GOING DEEPER, use of worksheets and periodic church-wide announcements.


MOVE FORWARD

Receive the challenge to “MOVE FORWARD” by applying what was learned this week.

SUGGESTIONS:

  1. Continue preparing to tell your story, your MEMOIR, to the rest of the Group over the next few weeks.
  2. Use the MY MEMOIR: PREPARING TO TELL MY STORY (Scope Timeline) worksheet to help you think through your story. You can download the SCOPE TIMELINE WORKSHEETThere is a longer version of the worksheet, that gives an extra step to dig deeper into your story, which can be downloaded at LONG VERSION WORKSHEET (RECOMMENDED)

GOING DEEPER 

To gain the maximum impact of the available content for the Group semester we encourage everyone to engage the FULL WORKSHOP SEMESTER experience. You can REGISTER HERE. While this is not required, nor will the Group conversation questions require deeper background from the WORKSHOP, it is an amazing and life-changing option for everyone.

PRAYER

Write down the prayer requests of those in your Group so you can be standing with them in faith for their answers. Also, be vulnerable about your requests, inviting the Group to walk with you through trials, challenges and desires. As the weeks ensue you will find much to celebrate together about in answered prayer. 

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SESSION 3 - THE POWER OF STORY

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SESSION 3 - THE POWER OF STORY

GROUP VIDEO

Today we discussed the importance of sharing our Stories!

SESSION 3 - GROUP VIDEO

Watch 10-20 minutes of a GROUP video teaching, that correlates with the full Workshop semester topics.


GROUP CONVERSATION GUIDE

It’s interesting how much of our lives revolve around a story. I think it’s the reason we read books. It’s the reason we watch movies. It’s why we get hooked on TV sitcoms and shows. It’s the reason we ask our parents to tell us stories, even the same stories, over and over again. The great times around dinner tables with family and friends is because we love the warmth, emotion and connection of stories.

  • PSALM 44:1 We have heard with our ears, O God; our fathers have told us [what] WORK YOU DID in their days, in the days of old.
  • PSALM 111:4 God has made His wonderful works to be REMEMBERED; the Lord is gracious, merciful, and full of loving compassion.

 

WHEN WE TELL STORIES...

When we tell our stories in an authentic heart...

  1. It is a GIFT to OURSELVES
  2. It is a GIFT to OTHERS
  3. It is a GIFT to GOD

 

THE BRAIN AND STORY

In neuroscience, the brain changes on the impact of experiencing someone's personal story. Each story heard releases neuro-chemicals for empathy, compassion, nurture and connection. Experiencing story makes oxytocin (the relationship-connection chemical) wash over our brains. And every time we have reinforced neuro-chemicals pass through the brain's circuitry, we adjust in the plasticity of the brain, changing it. Remember, we don't FEEL anything without a neuro-transmitter or hormone being released. 

  • When the story-teller TRUSTS, the brain TRANSMITS.
  • When the listener TRUSTS, the brain BONDS.
  • When mutual TRUST happens, AMAZING THINGS happen.

 

ASKING 3 THINGS OF YOU

We are asking 3 things of you for the next 10 weeks:

  1. Show Up
  2. Join In
  3. Be Real

 

TONIGHTS DISCUSSION

Your Host will lead the Group in an icebreaker for everyone to share in. Then you will hear the Memoir Stories of those in your Group. Be prepared to share, using MY MEMOIR: PREPARING TO TELL MY STORY (Scope Timeline) worksheet to help you think through your story. You can download the SCOPE TIMELINE WORKSHEET at the linkThere is a longer version of the worksheet, that gives an extra step to dig deeper into your story, which can be downloaded at LONG VERSION WORKSHEET (RECOMMENDED)You can also watch the WRAP UP video from last week that explains how to use the worksheet. Each person's Memoir should be 10-15 minutes long.

IMPORTANT:  We would like to have 4 people share their stories, per night, for the next 3 nights. That only leaves time for 12 total stories. If you have more in your Group than 12, plan to add a 5th person's story per night, for the next 3 weeks. Also, help everyone stay in the 10-15 minute range for their stories, so everyone can participate with ease.


GROUP DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

Take a few moments to discuss your answers to these questions with the Group.

 

ICE BREAKER  

Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

 

MY MEMOIR STORIES

Start with the Hosts (husband, wife), then if you have an Apprentice go next. Then open it up to the Group. 

  • It isn't necessary that a person follow the SCOPE TIMELINE WORKSHEET, but it will make it easier for people to follow a structure. There is a longer version of the worksheet, that gives an extra step to dig deeper into your story, which can be downloaded at LONG VERSION WORKSHEET (RECOMMENDED)
  • The goal is to have each individual person share for 10-15 minutes of their life story (Memoir). As the Host try to stay tuned to each person's story and ask things like, "What was that like?" or "How did that make you feel?" or "What was the emotional power rating you would put on that event?"
  • IMPORTANT:  We would like to have 4 people share their stories, per night, for the next 3 nights. That only leaves time for 12 total stories. If you have more in your Group than 12, plan to add a 5th person's story per night, for the next 3 weeks. Also, help everyone stay in the 10-15 minute range for their stories, so everyone can participate with ease.

 

POST-MEMOIR STORIES

If the Group completes the MEMOIR STORIES, having heard from everyone signed up from the Group, or there is a minimal attendance in tonight's Group, feel free to use the following questions for conversation (of course the memoir stories have top priority). Use last week's questions below first (if you DIDN'T use them last week), then use this week's.

Last Week's

  1. Who was your best friend in childhood? What was it about that person that caused you to connect with him or her?
  2. In what ways do people present exaggerated images of themselves to the world? What harm can these exaggerations cause?
  3. Have you ever judged someone based on first impressions only to change your mind when you heard more of that person's story? What is it about hearing his or her story that changes your mind?

This Week's

  1. How did you feel about telling your story in this Group?
  2. If you struggled to be open and transparent about telling your story, what were your fears of how it might change your relationship with the people in this Group?
  3. What are some things that would make this Group safe enough for you to be open and transparent?

SESSION 3 - WRAP UP VIDEO #2

This is a 5-10 minute video for MOVING FORWARD, GOING DEEPER, use of worksheets and periodic church-wide announcements.


MOVE FORWARD

Receive the challenge to “MOVE FORWARD” by applying what was learned this week.

SUGGESTIONS:

  1. Continue preparing to tell your story, your MEMOIR, to the rest of the Group over the next few weeks.
  2. Use the MY MEMOIR: PREPARING TO TELL MY STORY (Scope Timeline) worksheet to help you think through your story. You can download the SCOPE TIMELINE WORKSHEETThere is a longer version of the worksheet, that gives an extra step to dig deeper into your story, which can be downloaded at LONG VERSION WORKSHEET (RECOMMENDED)

GOING DEEPER 

To gain the maximum impact of the available content for the Group semester we encourage everyone to engage the FULL WORKSHOP SEMESTER experience. You can REGISTER HERE. While this is not required, nor will the Group conversation questions require deeper background from the WORKSHOP, it is an amazing and life-changing option for everyone.


PRAYER

Write down the prayer requests of those in your Group so you can be standing with them in faith for their answers. Also, be vulnerable about your requests, inviting the Group to walk with you through trials, challenges and desires. As the weeks ensue you will find much to celebrate together about in answered prayer. 

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SESSION 2 - WHO'S ON FIRST?

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SESSION 2 - WHO'S ON FIRST?

GROUP VIDEO

Today we discussed the importance of intentional relationships!

SESSION 2 - GROUP VIDEO

Watch 10-20 minutes of a GROUP video teaching, that correlates with the full Workshop semester topics.

CONVERSATION GUIDE

When Jesus resurrected us to God, He didn't just connect us to a head, but to a body as well. He didn't just connect us to Himself, he connected us to one another.

WHO'S ON FIRST?

Can you imagine a baseball team leaving first base unattended? They would never do that. Because that is an extremely important position for every team. The team would never say, “You know we’ve got Fred over there in the dugout, but he just isn’t a very good fielder. We have Bob over there who is a pretty good hitter, but he is a little too chatty. So we are just going to leave the position open.” No, they would never do that. Because they wouldn’t want to face the consequences of leaving such an important position unattended. Yet, people do that in life all the time.

What I know about Tina and I is that we have the propensity to leave first base open in our lives, as a couple, as parents, and as seekers of God. And that is true of you also. Because we all gravitate towards, lean towards and move towards isolation. If we are not careful we will leave an extremely important relationship in our life unattended.

You know what first base is for you? First base is that couple that you can depend on. First base is that guy that you can call when things are not going your way. First base is the person or couple on Friday night that you can call and say, “Hey, what are yall doing tonight? Let’s grab a pizza together.”

All of us need someone on first base in our lives.

RESEARCHERS ON COMMUNICATION

Researchers tell us that up to 90+% of our communication is non-verbal. What that means to us is that connection of intimacy (through nurture, oversight, encouragement, inquisition, accountability, hope and loyalty) can only happen in face time experiences. No amount of social tasks, organized systems nor inspired exhortations will be capable of doing what simple, consistent investments of time and proximity with friends will easily do.

THE BODY OF CHRIST

Scripture gives us multiple examples of bonding to the team, the body…not just for the individual’s growth, but for the team’s growth. Fact is that we are better together. The Apostle Paul gives us an amazing metaphor for these connections in 1 Corinthians 12. He says that we are like a body, intricately connected to each other, interdependent to each other.

We, being the church, are those who have given their hearts to Christ. Paul actually calls this body, the “body of Christ.” Paul says that just as a body has different parts, and each part functions differently, and in a sense function individually, that the whole body is healthy only through interdependence on each other. He says, “The hand would never say to the foot, ‘I don’t need you. I can just live without you’”

Paul says, “That would be foolish. It would be ridiculous.” He says this because the parts of the human body were meant to work together, to love together, to grow together, to serve together.” The body is healthy only through community. This helps the whole body, but in turn it helps each part individually.

ASKING 3 THINGS OF YOU

We are asking 3 things of you for the next 10 weeks:

  1. Show Up
  2. Join In
  3. Be Real

TONIGHTS DISCUSSION

Your Host will lead the Group in an icebreaker for everyone to share in. Then you will hear the Memoir Stories of those in your Group. Be prepared to share 10-15 minutes, using MY MEMOIR: PREPARING TO TELL MY STORY (Scope Timeline) worksheet to help you think through your story. You can download the SCOPE TIMELINE WORKSHEET HERE. There is a longer version of the worksheet, that gives an extra step to dig deeper into your story, which can be downloaded at LONG VERSION WORKSHEET (RECOMMENDED) You can also watch the WRAP UP video from last week that explains how to use the worksheet.

IMPORTANT:  We would like to have 4 people share their stories, per night, for the next 3 nights. That only leaves time for 12 total stories. If you have more in your Group than 12, plan to add a 5th person's story per night, for the next 3 weeks. Also, help everyone stay in the 10-15 minute range for their stories, so everyone can participate with ease.


DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

Take a few moments to discuss your answers to these questions with the Group.

ICE BREAKER  

Complete the sentence: My favorite kind of music is… (and why?)

MY MEMOIR STORIES

It isn't necessary that a person follow the SCOPE TIMELINE WORKSHEET, but it will make it easier for people to follow a structure. The goal is to have each individual person share 10-15 of their life story (Memoir). 

POST-MEMOIR STORIES

If the Group completes the MEMOIR STORIES, having heard from everyone signed up from the Group, or there is a minimal attendance in tonight's Group, feel free to use the following questions for conversation (of course the memoir stories have top priority):

  1. Who was your best friend in childhood? What was it about that person that caused you to connect with him or her?
  2. In what ways do people present exaggerated images of themselves to the world? What harm can these exaggerations cause?
  3. Have you ever judged someone based on first impressions only to change your mind when you heard more of that person's story? What is it about hearing his or her story that changes your mind?

WRAP UP VIDEO

This is a 5-10 minute video for MOVING FORWARD, GOING DEEPER, use of worksheets and periodic church-wide announcements.


MOVE FORWARD

Receive the challenge to “move forward” by applying what was learned this week.

SUGGESTIONS:

  1. Continue preparing to tell your story, your MEMOIR, to the rest of the Group over the next few weeks.
  2. Use the MY MEMOIR: PREPARING TO TELL MY STORY (Scope Timeline) worksheet to help you think through your story. You can download the SCOPE TIMELINE WORKSHEETThere is a longer version of the worksheet, that gives an extra step to dig deeper into your story, which can be downloaded at LONG VERSION WORKSHEET (RECOMMENDED)

GOING DEEPER

To gain the maximum impact of the available content for the Group semester we encourage everyone to engage the FULL WORKSHOP SEMESTER experience. You can REGISTER HERE. While this is not required, nor will the Group conversation questions require deeper background from the WORKSHOP, it is an amazing and life-changing option for everyone.


PRAYER

Write down the prayer requests of those in your Group so you can be standing with them in faith for their answers. Also, be vulnerable about your requests, inviting the Group to walk with you through trials, challenges and desires. As the weeks ensue you will find much to celebrate together about in answered prayer. 

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SESSION 1 - SHOW UP!

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SESSION 1 - SHOW UP!

GROUP VIDEO

Today we discussed the things that make a Group great!

SESSION 1 - GROUP VIDEO

Watch 10-20 minutes of a GROUP video teaching, that correlates with the full Workshop semester topics.


VIDEO HIGHLIGHTS

GROUP TOPICS EACH SEMESTER

  • Science of Freedom
  • Redemption
  • Authority of the Believer
  • The Holy Spirit

A GREAT GROUP

A great Group is fueled by what we call our 4 vital relationships: 

  1. Intimacy with God
  2. Courage with your Self
  3. Community with Insiders
  4. Influence with Outsiders

ASKING 3 THINGS OF YOU

We are asking 3 things of you for the next 10 weeks:

  1. Show Up
  2. Join In
  3. Be Real

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

Take a few moments to discuss your answers to these questions with the Group.

ICE BREAKER  

Tell us something unique about yourself that no one would know unless you told them (i.e. I'm a twin. I was a clown in a circus. I like fruit cake. I played in the NBA.)

QUESTIONS

  1. What was one of your dreams of childhood?
  2. Did you have a childhood hero? Someone that inspired you, even if you didn't know them personally?
  3. What is one of the most significant decisions that shaped the outcome of your life? What deeply held beliefs were behind your decision?

WRAP UP VIDEO

This is a 5-10 minute video for MOVING FORWARD, GOING DEEPER, use of worksheets and periodic church-wide announcements.


MOVE FORWARD

Receive the challenge to “move forward” by applying what was learned this week.

SUGGESTIONS:

  1. Prepare to tell your story, your MEMOIR, to the rest of us over the next few weeks.
  2. Use the MY MEMOIR: PREPARING TO TELL MY STORY(Scope Timeline) worksheet to help you think through your story. You can download the SCOPE TIMELINE WORKSHEETThere is a longer version of the worksheet, that gives an extra step to dig deeper into your story, which can be downloaded at LONG VERSION WORKSHEET (RECOMMENDED)

GOING DEEPER

To gain the maximum impact of the available content for the Group semester we encourage everyone to engage the FULL WORKSHOP SEMESTER experience. You can register HERE. While this is not required, nor will the Group conversation questions require deeper background from the WORKSHOP, it is an amazing and life-changing option for everyone.


PRAYER

Write down the prayer requests of those in your Group so you can be standing with them in faith for their answers. Also, be vulnerable about your requests, inviting the Group to walk with you through trials, challenges and desires. As the weeks ensue you will find much to celebrate together about in answered prayer. 

 

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