THE HOLY SPIRIT - EMPOWERED RESOURCES

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THE HOLY SPIRIT - EMPOWERED RESOURCES

If you are interested in growing in shared experiences with the Holy Spirit, here are some great resources that will enrich your journey. Check them out!

PASTOR PATRICK NORRIS

  • eCourse – LifePointe Holy Spirit Workshop HERE  

  • Video Interview – Pastor Monte Knudsen HERE

  • Teaching Series – (RE)PRESSED GOD – HERE

JASON REGIER

  • Teaching – Awakening Wednesday (Personal Testimony) – HERE 

KENNETH HAGIN SR.

  • Book – The Holy Spirit and His Gifts Study Course – HERE

 

SHAWN BOLZ

  • eCourse – God Secrets – HERE

  • Book and Resources – Translating God – HERE

 

JACK HAYFORD

  • Video – The Beauty of Spiritual Language – HERE

  • Book – The Beauty of Spiritual Language – HERE

 

BETH JONES

  • eCourse – The Spirit Empowered Life – HERE

  • Book – The Spirit Empowered Life – HERE

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HOW TO PRAY OVER LEGAL CASES

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HOW TO PRAY OVER LEGAL CASES

HOW TO PRAY OVER LEGAL CASES

Are you facing legal action? Is your future in the hands of a civil authority? How do you pray in such huge situations where someone else can control the future of your life?

Here is a prayer that was extracted from Scriptures and principles listed below the prayer:

 

Dear God,

You are my Helper and my Defender. I put my hope and trust in You.

I ask you to grant my DEFENDING ATTORNEYS the spirit of wisdom and revelation. Open the eyes of their understanding with enlightenment. Make known to them the hope of Your calling and the riches of Your glory you have invested in all saints, as well as the greatness of Your power that is to all Believers. Make known to them the necessary details of our case so they represent us with a whole heart and deep convictions. May nothing be hidden from them. May they have supernatural help to know the strategies of those prosecuting us unjustly. Give our attorneys the wisdom in knowing and stopping every attack upon us.

May ANYONE WHO TAKES THE STAND AS A VOICE FOR US be enriched with all utterance and clarity of knowledge. May we come behind in no gift or divine ability. May we open our mouth boldly to speak with divine confidence. May we all be held blameless before You and all others.

May the PROSECUTING ATTORNEY, and all who have set themselves against us in this case, see the futility of their own agenda and our innocence. May justice be exalted. If they pursue this case further, may they be hardened in heart by their own choices, bringing mental and intellectual darkness to their thoughts and strategies on this case. May it be great darkness and may they feel the oppression, and spoil, from their own choices. May they not prosper in any measure in this case.

I acknowledge THE JUDGE, and all in authority, have their hearts held in Your hand, Lord. You supernaturally influence and guide their hearts turning, as the rivers of water. Bring to light the hidden things of darkness, and make manifest the counsel of all hearts. May Your spirit rest upon them; the spirit of wisdom, understanding, counsel, knowledge and the fear of the Lord. Make them have quick understanding. Give them the courage to judge with righteousness.

Manifest Your DIVINE FAVOR upon us. May it surround us like a shield. May this favor cause people to supernaturally understand us, our hearts, and our case. We trust You with all our heart and lean not to our own understanding. We acknowledge You and that You are directing our paths. Your paths always lead to life and blessing. May we have restoration of everything the enemy has stolen. May we have honor in the midst of our adversaries, and great victories in the midst of great impossibilities. May we have prominence and preferential treatment. May we have petitions granted even by ungodly civil authorities. May we have policies, rules, regulations and laws changed and reversed to our advantage.

Thank you, God. May You be honored through our journey of this situation. We believe we receive every promise you have given here, in Jesus name!


SCRIPTURE REFERENCES

 

FOR DEFENDING ATTORNEYS  

Eph 1:16-19 Cease not to give thanks for you, making mention of you in my prayers; 17 That the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, may give unto you the spirit of wisdom and revelation in the knowledge of him: 18 The eyes of your understanding being enlightened; that ye may know what is the hope of his calling, and what the riches of the glory of his inheritance in the saints, 19 And what is the exceeding greatness of his power to usward who believe, according to the working of his mighty power, KJV

 

ALL WHO TAKE THE STAND

1 Cor 1:4-8  I thank my God always on your behalf, for the grace of God which is given you by Jesus Christ; 5 That in every thing ye are enriched by him, in all utterance, and in all knowledge; 6 Even as the testimony of Christ was confirmed in you: 7 So that ye come behind in no gift; waiting for the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ: 8 Who shall also confirm you unto the end, that ye may be blameless in the day of our Lord Jesus Christ. KJV

2 Cor 8:7 Therefore, as ye abound in every thing, in faith, and utterance, and knowledge, and in all diligence, and in your love to us, see that ye abound in this grace also. KJV

Eph 6:18-20 Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints; 19 And for me, that utterance may be given unto me, that I may open my mouth boldly, to make known the mystery of the gospel, 20 For which I am an ambassador in bonds: that therein I may speak boldly, as I ought to speak. KJV

 

PROSECUTING ATTORNEY

(The hardness and darkness is first a by-product of their own choices, being consumed by their own darkness. It isn’t for eternal ends. Then, the darkness simply affects their thought processes and individual confusion.)

Ex 7:3-4 And I will harden Pharaoh's heart, and multiply my signs and my wonders in the land of Egypt. 4 But Pharaoh shall not hearken unto you, that I may lay my hand upon Egypt, and bring forth mine armies, and my people the children of Israel, out of the land of Egypt by great judgments. KJV

Ex 8:15 But when Pharaoh saw that there was respite, he hardened his heart, and hearkened not unto them; as the LORD had said. KJV

Deut 28:29 And thou shalt grope at noonday, as the blind gropeth in darkness, and thou shalt not prosper in thy ways: and thou shalt be only oppressed and spoiled evermore, and no man shall save thee. KJV

Matt 6:23 But if thine eye be evil, thy whole body shall be full of darkness. If therefore the light that is in thee be darkness, how great is that darkness! KJV

 

THE JUDGE

Prov 21:1 The king's heart is in the hand of the LORD, as the rivers of water: he turneth it whithersoever he will. KJV

1 Cor 4:5 Therefore judge nothing before the time, until the Lord come, who both will bring to light the hidden things of darkness, and will make manifest the counsels of the hearts: and then shall every man have praise of God. KJV

Isa 11:2-5 And the spirit of the LORD shall rest upon him, the spirit of wisdom and understanding, the spirit of counsel and might, the spirit of knowledge and of the fear of the LORD; 3 And shall make him of quick understanding in the fear of the LORD: and he shall not judge after the sight of his eyes, neither reprove after the hearing of his ears: 4 But with righteousness shall he judge the poor, and reprove with equity for the meek of the earth: and he shall smite the earth with the rod of his mouth, and with the breath of his lips shall he slay the wicked. 5 And righteousness shall be the girdle of his loins, and faithfulness the girdle of his reins. KJV 

 

FAVOR WITH ALL

Psalm 5:12 NKJV - 12 For You, O LORD, will bless the righteous; With FAVOR You will surround him as [with] a shield.

PROVERBS 3:4-6 KJV - 4 So shalt thou find FAVOUR and good understanding in the sight of God and man. 5 Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. 6 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. 

Proverbs 8:35 NKJV - 35 For whoever finds God finds life, And obtains FAVOR from the LORD;

 

10 BENEFITS OF FAVOR

I have been given favor and GOOD UNDERSTANDING in the sight of God and MAN. This divine favor emanates from my born again spirit that is formed in the nature of God Himself. There for this favor produces in and around me the following:

  • Favor produces supernatural increase and promotion. (Genesis 39:21)
  • Favor produces restoration of everything that the enemy has stolen from you. (Exodus 3:21)
  • Favor produces honor in the midst of your adversaries. (Exodus 11:3)
  • Favor produces increased assets, especially in the area of real estate.(Deuteronomy 33:23)
  • Favor produces great victories in the midst of great impossibilities. (Joshua 11:20)
  • Favor produces recognition, even when you seem the least likely to receive it. (1 Samuel 16:22)
  • Favor produces prominence and preferential treatment. (Esther. 2:17)
  • Favor produces petitions granted even by ungodly civil authorities. (Esther 5:8)
  • Favor causes policies, rules, regulations and laws to be changed and reversed to your advantage. (Esther 8:5)
  • Favor produces battles won which you won’t even fight because God will fight them for you. (Psalm 44:3)

Psalm 54:4-7 GN But God is my helper. The Lord is my defender.

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IS IT WEIRD TO CALL HIM/HER "PASTOR"?

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IS IT WEIRD TO CALL HIM/HER "PASTOR"?

Interested in background on why many people call their Pastor, "Pastor," rather than by first name? An interesting spiritual principle of honor and authority is that the disciples of Christ never addressed Jesus by his first name. Jesus wasn’t on an ego trip, nor was it for him. The attitude was necessary for a transformational journey in the ones who really saw Him as Lord.


Have Disagreements Revealed Your Level of Submission to Authority?

By Rick Renner

http://www.renner.org/authority/have-disagreements-revealed-your-level-of-submission-to-authority/

And he that betrayed him had given them a token, saying, Whomsoever I shall kiss, that same is he; take him, and lead him away safely. And as soon as he was come, he goeth straightway to him, and saith, Master, master; and kissed him.
— Mark 14:44,45
 

When I was a young man and just getting started in the ministry, God positioned me under a great man of God who could read Greek and exegete New Testament verses, yet was also strongly anointed by the Spirit of God. To me, this minister had the best combination possible — brains and anointing all mixed together in one package! The first time I heard him preach, my jaw dropped open! His preaching reminded me of the way Jesus baffled the scribes when they heard Him teach with such great authority. I immediately knew that I needed to be under this man’s anointing and to receive from his life.

God opened the door for me to be trained by this great man of God, and for two years I worked side by side with him every day — carrying his books and traveling to his meetings with him. I literally met with him seven days a week so he could teach and train me. It was amazing that a man of this caliber would put so much of himself into someone as young as I was, but he did it because he believed in the call of God on my life. This man imparted the tools, the skills, and the understanding I needed to become a man of God who could both grow in the things of the Spirit and establish a ministry that was balanced between the Word and the Spirit.

Everything was great between this minister and me — until one day when I got offended. The reason for the offense is not important, but the situation revealed that I had a flaw in my understanding of authority and submission.

This was an expensive lesson that God has used throughout the years of my ministry as I have worked with others who are themselves learning the hard lessons of submission and authority. Because of what I experienced, I understand the temptation people occasionally feel to think too highly of themselves and to run off and leave their spiritual mentors.

That is exactly what I did to this man who had been so gracious to me. After he had poured his life into me, teaching and training me, I left him when we had our first major disagreement. Although I called him my pastor, the conflict between us revealed that I had never really given him a place of authority in my life. He had been a great example to me, and I respected him as the best teacher I had ever heard. Yet I had obviously never received him as God’s authority in my life; if I had, I never would have done what I did to him.

Unfortunately, the true level of one’s commitment isn’t tested by good times, but by times of conflict and disagreement. It’s easy to walk together when you agree with the one you call your spiritual authority and you’re having a good time together. But what happens when you disagree or experience a conflict in your relationship? This is the critical moment when the truth about your level of submission will become observable.

When Judas Iscariot came to the Garden of Gethsemane the night he betrayed Jesus, he said something that revealed he had never been truly submitted to Him. The truth about Judas’ recognition of and submission to Jesus’ authority was exposed that night, just as my submission to that minister was also proven to be defective. Mark 14:45 says, “And as soon as he [Judas] was come, he goeth straightway to him, and saith, Master, master; and kissed him.”

Notice that Judas called Jesus, “Master, master.” These words reveal the type of relationship that really existed in Judas’ heart toward Jesus. These words also reveal the reason the devil was able to use Judas, and not one of the other disciples, to betray Jesus.

The word “master” comes from the Greek word didaskalos, which means teacher. When it is translated “master,” as in this verse, it is intended to give the idea of one who is a fabulous, masterful teacher. This is the Greek equivalent of the Hebrew word rabbi. Of course, a rabbi is a teacher who is honored and respected because of his understanding of and ability to explain the Scriptures. When Judas approached Jesus in the Garden that night, this is exactly the title he used when he referred to Jesus. He called Him, “Master, master.” It literally meant, “Teacher, teacher.”

Titles are very important, because they define relationships. For instance, the words Daddy and Mother define the unique relationship between a child and a parent. The word Boss defines the relationship between an employee and his employer — a relationship much different than the one that exists between the employee and his fellow employees. The words Mr. President define the relationship between the nation and its leader. The word Pastor defines the relationship between a church and its pastor.

A world without titles would be a world with confusion, for titles give rank, order, and definition to relationships. Jesus Himself told the disciples, “Ye call me Master and Lord: and ye say well; for so I am” (John 13:13).

Even Jesus acknowledged it was correct for His disciples to call Him “Lord” and “Master.” In fact, there isn’t a single occurrence in the Gospels where they called Him “Jesus.” They were always respectful, honoring, and deferential when they spoke of Him or to Him.

But I want you to notice what title Judas didn’t use that night — he didn’t call Jesus “Lord.” The word for “Lord” expresses the idea of One who has ultimate and supreme authority in your life. If you called someone “Lord,” it meant you were submitted to that person’s authority and yielded every realm of your life to his management, direction, and control.

Had Judas called Jesus “Lord” that night, it would have meant that Judas had surrendered his life to Jesus’ control and was submitted to His authority. But Judas didn’t use the word “Lord”; he used the word for “Teacher,” which revealed that Jesus had never really become God’s authority in Judas’ life. The truth is, Judas had only received Jesus as a teacher, a rabbi, and a gifted communicator, but never as “Lord.”

As happens in all relationships where submission to authority is required, the moment finally came that proved the true level of Judas’ submission to Jesus. When the test came, Judas failed it. There was a fatal flaw in his relationship with Jesus. In the end, it became apparent to everyone that even though he honored and followed Jesus as a Master Teacher, Jesus had never been his Lord. Thus, Judas’ side of his relationship with Jesus had been artificial from the very beginning.

Jesus knew what was in the heart of Judas, yet continued to work closely with him, extending mind-blowing mercy, amazing grace, and astounding patience toward him! Jesus graciously extended His time and attention to Judas to correct the fatal flaws in the disciple’s character and to get things right. But even with all of Jesus’ love and patience, the ball was in Judas’ court. He was the one who ultimately determined the level of relationship that would exist between him and Jesus. Jesus was willing to be his “Lord” — but Judas was never truly willing to be in submission to Jesus’ authority. Instead, Judas only authorized Jesus to be a gifted Teacher in his life.

I have learned over the years that it takes time to really get to know who people are. The apostle Paul urged us not to lay hands on people suddenly for this very reason (1 Timothy 5:22).

So don’t be too shocked if you discover someone whom you thought was with you all the way isn’t really with you at all. If this ever happens to you, remember that it happened to Jesus too. Just as God used Jesus to extend mercy, grace, and patience to Judas Iscariot, God may be using you now to give an unfaithful person a chance to have a change of heart so he can become a faithful person.

Can God count on you to be His extension of kindness to that person? Are you to be His mercy outstretched to give that person a magnificent opportunity to make a true turnaround in his heart, mind, and character?

When I wronged my pastor so many years ago, my actions uncovered a flaw inside me that needed correction. It revealed that I didn’t understand what submission to authority really meant. In retrospect, I’m so thankful that this happened, for God used it to expose a defect in my character that needed to be eradicated. To change me, He tapped a great man of God on the shoulder and instructed him to love me, forgive me, and teach me. Because he was willing to be God’s outstretched hand of mercy in my life, I was corrected, delivered, and changed. I can never thank God enough for placing me under a person who cared enough for me that he stuck with me and brought correction into my life.

Are you supposed to be that kind of person to someone close to you right now? It’s so easy to fixate on the kiss of betrayal, but just think about how much God loves that “problem person” in your life! He is trying to help him by giving him a friend like you!

If that person chooses not to respond to the mercy, grace, and patience that is being poured out to him through you, he will have to live with the results of his decisions. Just make sure that you fulfill what God is requiring of you in this relationship. It may seem difficult to do, but you need to be thankful that God has kindly entrusted you with the responsibility of giving that person one last chance!

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"HOW DO I KNOW FOR SURE I AM SAVED?"

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Often I am asked how a person is to really know that they are "saved." Salvation is the central theme of Scripture. Salvation is synonymous with Redemption, and tells the story of God reconciling fallen/sinful mankind unto Himself. Salvation speaks of complete forgiveness of sins and the gift of righteousness transforming a human spirit.

Here are some overview points of Salvation that Evangelical theologians generally agree on:

  • Salvation is the most complicated subject in Holy Scripture.
  • Salvation is available for anyone/everyone.
  • Salvation is appropriated with simple access, through faith in Christ alone.
  • Salvation is not to be reduced to a prayer or ceremony.
  • Salvation does indeed happen in a moment and your salvation won’t be “lost”.
  • Salvation is marked by a life of faith, constant until the end of their lives.
  • Salvation is a posture of repentance and faith that begins in a “moment” but is “maintained” and “grows” for the rest of a person’s life.

On one hand salvation is the easiest thing to secure. 

Acts 16:30-31 KJV [The Guard said] … Sirs, what must I do to be saved? And [Paul] said, Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and though shalt be saved…”

On the other hand, the following texts seem to steal away the comfort and confidence of one's salvation, creating anxiety around whether they are in or out when it comes to eternal security.

Matthew 7:17-29 NKJV Even so, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. 18 A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor [can] a bad tree bear good fruit. 19 Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. 20 Therefore by their fruits you will know them. 21 Not everyone who says to Me, 'Lord, Lord,' shall enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father in heaven. 22 Many will say to Me in that day, 'Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in Your name, cast out demons in Your name, and done many wonders in Your name?' 23 And then I will declare to them, 'I never knew you; depart from Me, you who practice lawlessness!'

1 John 2:1-6 NKJV My little children, these things I write to you, so that you may not sin. And if anyone sins, we have an Advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous. 2 And He Himself is the propitiation for our sins, and not for ours only but also for the whole world. 3 Now by this we know that we know Him, if we keep His commandments. 4 He who says, "I know Him," and does not keep His commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him. 5 But whoever keeps His word, truly the love of God is perfected in him. By this we know that we are in Him. 6 He who says he abides in Him ought himself also to walk just as He walked.

 Luke 13:22-30 NKJV And He went through the cities and villages, teaching, and journeying toward Jerusalem. 23 Then one said to Him, "Lord, are there few who are saved?" And He said to them, 24 "Strive to enter through the narrow gate, for many, I say to you, will seek to enter and will not be able. 25 "When once the Master of the house has risen up and shut the door, and you begin to stand outside and knock at the door, saying, 'Lord, Lord, open for us,' and He will answer and say to you, 'I do not know you, where you are from,' 26 "then you will begin to say, 'We ate and drank in Your presence, and You taught in our streets.' 27 "But He will say, 'I tell you I do not know you, where you are from. Depart from Me, all you workers of iniquity.' 28 "There will be weeping and gnashing of teeth, when you see Abraham and Isaac and Jacob and all the prophets in the kingdom of God, and yourselves thrust out. 29 "They will come from the east and the west, from the north and the south, and sit down in the kingdom of God. 30 "And indeed there are last who will be first, and there are first who will be last."

These scriptures can scare the heebee geebees out of people. What did Jesus mean? How do you reconcile these texts with others that are very simplistic? How do you know that a person's faith actually "took?" What if a person's life doesn't change; morally, ethically and emotionally? How do we judge if someone we know is saved, or playing religious games? 

In 2014 I preached a series to help address this topic and help set hearts at peace. Below are the videos. You probably owe it to yourselves to put this question to rest so you can move on in a powerful intimacy with God.

One of my favorite books that addresses this topic is "Stop Asking Jesus into Your Heart" by JD Greear (click graphic below to view and order).

MESSAGES IN THE BREAK FREE SERIES:

I also did a series on Forgiveness that covers God's forgiveness of us, our forgiveness of ourselves and then our forgiveness of others. The titles linked below are correlated with each week video below the titles.

01 - Does God Forgive Me?

02 - How Does God FEEL When He Looks at Me?

03 - Introduction to Forgiving Others

04 - Finding Compassion in Forgiveness

05 - How to Forgive Those Who Hurt You

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HOW TO FORGIVE SOMEONE

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Anytime we offer a survey of topics that our audiences would like taught in the future, one of the top perennial requests is always on the topic of forgiveness.

Have you ever had someone do something…

  • That GRIEVED you?
  • That WOUNDED you?
  • That DISAPPOINTED expectations?
  • That DISRUPTED/DESTROYED your planned dreams?
  • That COST you something of high value?
  • That BETRAYED you and made you question your sense of Self? 

Maybe it was…

  • A verbal ABUSE, physical or sexual abuse
  • A DIVORCE
  • The DEATH of a loved one due to another person’s choices/negligence
  • A FALSE WITNESS that cost you a job
  • A BETRAYAL that cost you a network of close friendships

Ever said or heard this?

  • “I can’t forgive as long as he’s in my life.”
  • She won’t apologize, so how can I forgive her?”
  • “Forgive? I'll never forget what he did!”
  • “He ruined my life, career and dreams!”

If you have been struggling with unforgiveness towards others, listen to the message below and then begin performing the FORGIVENESS WORKSHEET (see instructions below).

FORGIVENESS WORKSHEET

The below worksheet is designed to be experiential. I recommend that you find a private place where disruptions are unlikely, turn on your favorite worship music and allow yourself to breathe, navigating this worksheet at a very slow pace. Your goal is to experience the emotional ebb and flow of the questions. Don't worry about finishing all the questions in one sitting as that would defeat the purpose. You may want to set yourself a goal of 30 minutes to an hour per day, making incremental progress through the questions. It may take you a week, or maybe even a month to finish it all. If you can set your energy towards experience rather than finishing, you will find the impact to be much greater and transformative.

DOWNLOAD - FORGIVENESS WORKSHEET

 

OTHER MESSAGES IN THIS BREAK FREE SERIES:

01 - Does God Forgive Me?

02 - How Does God FEEL When He Looks at Me?

03 - Introduction to Forgiving Others

04 - Finding Compassion in Forgiveness

05 - How to Forgive Those Who Hurt You

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DATING - CHARACTER OR CHEMISTRY???

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Often I am asked about dating, and the best way to find that special someone to spend the rest of your life with. I tend to think in systems first, then we can look at individual decisions. Any discussion that includes the monumental and life-altering approach to marriage must include higher level perspectives. 

A life time of happiness can only be found in Jesus. Even then you will have ebb and flows that tend to disrupt and challenge happiness. The promise of aggregating an entire life of happiness can be found. The question isn't, "How do I become happy?" The question should be, "How do I become healthy?" When we are healthy, we find that we are happy?

Healthiness and happiness in dating requires a process of answering some basic questions that address heart, mental and spiritual health. It is foolish to think that we can make great life decisions, specifically in vetting a potential suitor for marriage, when our heart, mind and spirit are not healthy. So here a few priority questions we should answer and pursue health towards:

  • SCRIPTURE:  Is my heart calibrated to the authority of Scripture? Am I willing to align my emotions and behaviors with Scriptural truth?
  • SEEKING:  How engaged is my heart with pursuing God's Kingdom as a first priority; over all recreation, peer relationships, financial pursuits, vocational dreams, etc.? How are my personal decisions impacting the mission of my local church?
  • SHEPHERDS:  Do I have a spiritual leader who is invested into my heart, mind and spirit? How much do I care what my pastor thinks, or says about my life? Am I willing to be teachable to experienced and mature mentors when it comes to relationships?
  • STAGES:  Have I identified my life's purpose? Is my life heading intentionally toward a destination, or is my life being lived randomly? What streets (predefined road or course, characterized by boundaries, providing direction for the steps that I must take) are directing my life? Are my individual steps (decisions) congruent with my streets (paths) and overall life-purpose?

All these questions spotlight behavioral norms, demonstrating a heart, mind and spirit that is calibrated to make wise decisions. Until these questions are addressed it is a bit chaotic to talk about dating itself.  When the brain fires off romantic chemistry storms it is so easy to be deluded, thinking that a guy is your knight in shining armor, when he really is just a guy who eats Armour bacon at night. 

The American culture of romance permeates the dreams of boys and girls, men and women. The alure of a drunken chemistry love for someone captures our sense of need. Yet, the unmapped system behind chemistry-focused-dating has netted a 30-40% marriage failure rate. If you were about to board an airplane that was projected to have a 30-40% crash risk, would you get on the plane? Maybe there is a better system. Maybe there is a wiser system. Maybe there is a more principled system. And don't worry, we aren't suggesting that romantic chemistry is unimportant; it's just not nearly as important as vetting for character. 

To reduce your risk in the return on dating investments, it is important to have a great system to think through how you will ultimately identify a qualified suitor.  Also, it is important to know how you will develop the relationship once you have a suitor. What does it mean to develop? What will you develop? Is development simply an unpredictable process, or can you know what you are developing and how maturity will insure outcomes?

These are all great questions! Below is a map that contrasts chemistry dating with character dating (it is discussed in the message 2 of the 5 videos below). The video teachings will also give you provocative insights about how you have dated in the past, and considerations of how you might want to do it in the future.

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PARENTING A CHILD'S SEXUALITY

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Dear LifePointe Parents,
 
Periodically I am asked if I know of any resources that help parents in guiding children through the interesting dialogue of sex education. And the answer is yes! There is a great set of age-appropriate books that you as a parent can sit down and share together with your children. I used these with our boys as we launched the conversation, all the way through to their early teen years. 

These books give a tremendous discussion-point to launch from. I love it because sexuality should never be a a one-off, "birds-and-bees" talk; it should be a lifelong conversation. These books establish your role as mentor and expert, as their ever available resource for sex related questions. The books also normalize sex as a topic of conversation with you, rather than a weird-me-out topic. I don't think any of us want our culture, nor our kids friends, to be the source of their sex education.

The books describe, in age-appropriate language, the things that you want to say, taking the pressure off of you. To have a resource like this bridges the awkward gap of how to initiate the conversation.  
 
The first 4 are as follows (click links to order) ...

And the final two I recommend in the line up below are...

Enjoy the parenting journey!!

Pastor

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