TANGO

Great relationships are like a dance; they move with passion in an interwoven heartbeat. This series of movements provide a lifetime of shared experiences, growth, beauty and style. Great dances require practice, learning the instinctive flow of your partner, encountering conflicting steps and learning recovery. When a couples life is out of sync, breakdowns begin to happen. The repeated impact causes callouses to grow on the heart. To be great at the dance, how do couple’s repair the soul well? In this short 3-week preaching series, the messages are made to inspire, challenge, and encourage you in your relationships whether you are single, dating, or married.

MYTHS OF GREAT RELATIONSHIPS

  1. Less disagreement equals greater closeness.

  2. We must resolve ALL our problems to have a GR.

  3. Our greatest threat is our personality flaws.

  4. We must have an equal 50/50 load.

  5. We must meet a sexual relation quota.

  6. Having babies will solve the closeness problems.

  7. If it is GREAT, it will require minimal work.

 

HOW WOULD YOU

LIKE TO KNOW WITH CERTAINTY

THAT YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

WILL GROW TO GREATNESS?

 

MATTHEW 19:7-8 AMP They said to Jesus, “WHY then did Moses command [us] to give a certificate of DIVORCE and thus to dismiss and repudiate a wife?” 8 He said to them, “BECAUSE OF THE HARDNESS (stubbornness and perversity) of your HEARTS Moses permitted you to dismiss and repudiate and divorce your wives; but from the beginning it has not been so [ordained].”

 

4 HORSEMEN OF APOCALYPSE

CONTEMPT

CRITICISM

DEFENSIVENESS

STONEWALLING

 

THE POWER OF BIDS

  • Couples who had DIVORCED had “TURN-TOWARD BIDS” 33 PERCENT of the time (3 / 10).

  • The couples who were STILL TOGETHER had “TURN-TOWARD BIDS” 87 PERCENT of the time (9 / 10).

 

#1 FACTOR - CONTEMPT

Couples who are focused on

criticizing their partners

MISS A WHOPPING 50 PERCENT

of positive things their partners are doing,

and they see negativity when it’s not there.

 

KINDNESS ILLUSTRATED 

DISASTERS

“You’re late. What’s wrong with you? You’re just like your mom.”

 

MASTERS

“I feel bad for picking on you about your lateness, and I know it’s not your fault,

but it’s really annoying that you’re late again.”

 

PRACTICING KINDNESS

  1. See love as an energy, not a formality!

  2. See kindness as a muscle, not a fixed trait.

  3. Nurture tenderness with a love map. (Click Here)

  4. Be generous about your partner’s intentions.

  5. Be generous celebrating your partners good news.

  6. Prioritize church ecosystems (Groups)

 

ACTIVATION

OUT OF EVERYTHING WE TALKED ABOUT TODAY,

WHAT IS YOUR ONE NEXT STEP THAT YOU NEED TO TAKE?

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